If you’ve finally decided to settle down, it’s necessary that you meet your future in-laws. It may be one of the most nerve-wracking things you have to go through, because you’re not sure whether you’ll be liked. You may not have met them when you were only dating, but now that the relationship is serious, you have to meet the parents.
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Listed below are some tips for how you can win the hearts of your future in-laws:
- Be polite. When you meet the parents of your future bride, be very polite. Greet your future mother in-law by giving her a peck on the cheek, and greet your future father in-law by shaking his hand. If they tend to exaggerate on certain issues, avoid getting too emotional and just show politeness towards them.
- Be honest. Avoid exaggeration, like complementing your future mother in-law by saying that ‘you thought she’s the sister of your future bride’. Comments like that may make you look like you’re trying too hard. Be true in everything you say. Your beliefs may be different from theirs, but what’s important is that you respect their beliefs.
- Please her father. When you meet the parents, especially the father, be very respectful. Fathers may have some tendencies to get jealous because they feel like the future husbands are taking their daughters away from them. Fathers are the protectors of their daughters. When you meet him for the first time, try to win him over by talking about his favorite sport or his favorite hobby. Never talk about your past relationships, and only focus on the positive qualities of his daughter. Once he senses that you’re qualified to take care of his daughter, you can be sure that you will have a smooth-sailing relationship with your in-laws.
- Sleep separately. If you’re going for a visit, don’t insist on sleeping in the same bedroom with their daughter. Follow their rules and obey what you have to obey when you meet the parents. Regardless of whether you and their daughter have been living together, if they’re not comfortable with you sleeping with their daughter in their home, do as you’re told.
So, when it’s time to meet the parents, make an impression by grooming yourself very well and by being true to yourself. Show them how much you truly care about their daughter.